I’ve never been a fan of people who lie. I mean I know we are all guilty of telling a “white lie” and let’s face it usually it comes from a place of politeness but I don’t make a habit of it. I try to (without sounding too JLo) keep it real! It’s way less complicated in my opinion. Recently we were lied to in a way that was really odd and completely unnecessary, yep aren’t unnecessary lies the most annoying?! It’s like whyyy lie about that, especially because those are the kinda lies you’re going to get caught out on! Like if you see a child hide the tv remote and then when questioned, they lie, it’s silly and not worth it. But in an attempt to not be so judgmental I got thinking about the motivation behind the unnecessary lie. I thought about the disposition of this person and what I knew about them from a mental/emotional perspective.
I know that they suffer with anxiety ( I know, who doesn’t, right, but we still have to maintain compassion and understanding) so maybe for whatever reason they felt nervous about the question they were asked even if it was just a passing question, coming from a place of polite chit chat. Maybe they are dealing with some childhood issues surrounding honesty, it could be that when they were young they would get into a lot of trouble when they would tell the truth and so they learnt to lie about even the most simplistic of things because that was safer and less emotionally traumatic for them. Who knows what’s behind the behaviour but I do like to try and keep an open mind before so quickly judging them.
I will say this though, even with trying to approach this topic with an open mind, I admittedly still struggle with dishonesty. I feel like I don’t know where I stand, I don’t know what to believe when we have conversations especially when I know the lies are said to flippantly. It means I now have to take everything that is said with a pinch of salt. Annoying as this character trait is others, at least I’m aware and i’m not being sucked in to a false sense of security.
What’s your views on people who lie?
Sending you love and light,