Happy Monday lovelies! I hope you all enjoyed your weekend. It was another very wet and windy weekend for us, which is fine, I try not to complain too much, though I would really like to enjoy some nice autumn weather! Because I love the autumn, it’s quite possibly my favourite season and I don’t feel I’ve really got to experience it yet this year. It’s either been wet and stormy or unseasonably warm. I’m awaiting those perfect autumn days where the air is chilled and crisp instead of unbearably cold, the leaves crunch under my feet and the sunbeams hit the array of browns, yellows and red leaves that still remain on the trees. I guess last year we had a very beautiful autumn and I’m nostalgic for that, but we can’t be that lucky every year I suppose.
I’ve recently been learning that there is a difference between giving up and accepting when something isn’t working and letting that situation go. I’m someone who is very determined or at least I believe myself to be and so giving up is usually not an option for me but like I said sometimes what can be perceived as giving up is actually more about being self aware and intuitive to what is working and what is not, what is bringing positive energy to your existence and what is not. There are some things that happen in ones life that are negative that are out of our control and all we can do is choose how we respond to such things. But then there are other negative circumstances that we are in control of in the sense we have more choice over whether we allow certain situations to continue on or not.
Sometimes our ego try to makes us feel guilty, like we are giving up and that makes us weak and so we continue on living a way that isn’t living to our best and happiest potential just because we don’t want to appear weak. In circumstances like these often we fear the judgment of others or worse ourselves and so we continue on living a life that we aren’t a hundred percent happy with. I sometimes contemplate that this is also part of a fear or resistance to change. Like for some people and myself included (though admittedly I’ve been working on this and am doing much better) change is so feared that even if it eventually turns out to be a great change the idea of change strikes such an emotionally tender chord that even the very thought of change is too much bare and so we continue on with what we know even if that’s not serving us in a positive way.
Ultimately I belive that there is a call for moderation in most things and sometimes we do need to keep persevering during times of challenge and not give up. Then there are other times where we must start to change the negative connotations that are too often associated around the idea of giving up. Because it’s not always about giving up but instead recognising what needs to change in ones life to bring inner peace and happiness.
If you’re wondering how do we know whether it’s a time to persevere or to let something go then I will say this; We all know deep down, we just have to take time to ourselves, evaluate and let our inner guidance system provide the answers. Don’t rush your decisions, take your time and you’ll get there and trust that you will.
So often these written posts of mine are almost always aimed at myself, like a way to think out loud and to give a voice to what I’m feeling. But if they resonate or help anyone reading this too then that’s also amazing. It’s not that I’m trying to be another “influencer” or an “inspirational speaker” just someone who’s a bit of a deep thinker, who’s constantly looking to learn things about myself and evolve in ways that leads me to a happier, healthier and more balanced way of life. That’s it. Take what you will from my musings.
My outfit: pastels for autumn, yes sir! I love the idea of taking this lilac coloured blazer into the autumn with me. I really like how it looks with the autumnal floral print top and the brown corduroy skirt for a different spin on this spring evoking piece. Though this was shot about 3 weeks ago, the temperature literally only just started to drop as of yesterday. So don’t go thinking I was cold because I’m not one of those people who will freeze for fashion.
Wishing you all a wonderful week and sending you lots of love and light,
Le Specs Sunglasses – HERE
Marks & Spencer Lilac Blazer – similar HERE
(old) Corduroy skirt – love this HERE
(old) Newbark Loafers – love these HERE
Pauls Boutique Bag – HERE